A person's greatest skill is to make people feel at ease.
broadcast Ah Chenglang
there is a question on Zhihu: "what is the ultimate praise for a person?"
I thought most of the answers would be such as talent, high EQ and strong ability.
but there is one answer that surprises me and is reassuring.
if you think about it, it is true.
there are many smart and capable people in this world, but reassuring people are hard to find.
"reassuring" sounds simple, but it is the highest affirmation of a person's ability and character.
there are words in the Analects of Confucius:
"people cannot stand without faith, and karma without faith will not be happy.
people who are reassuring will always put honesty first.
Luo Yonghao told a story that impressed me very much.
in 2008, he wanted to start an English training school, but he had no money.
when a young man who had not been in touch for a long time heard about this, he asked him, "how much start-up capital do you need?"
Luo Yonghao said: "3 million."
the young man said without hesitation, "give me the bank account."
the next day, Luo Yonghao received the money.
Luo Yonghao called and asked Xiao: "although we are young, we haven't seen each other for more than ten years. How can you trust me so much?"
so he told me a little story.
many years ago, in their hometown, they all liked to rip videotapes and exchange videos with each other.
but some people are so slick that they divide a feature film into five tapes and then change five videotapes with others.
gradually, everyone around me did so.
only Luo Yonghao did not.
once, he traded a videotape with Luo Yonghao, but Luo Yonghao offered to exchange five tapes for five tapes:
"I bought this with someone else last time. I was fooled, and I don't want you to be fooled again."
after talking about this, he said with a little emotion:
"you can see a person's character from a trivial matter. At that time, I thought you were worthy of a lifetime of deep acquaintance."
Trust between people is like a piece of paper, which is accidentally wrinkled, and it is difficult to restore it to its original form.
and reassuring people, will never overdraw their own credit, will never betray the trust of others.
such a person is the most reassuring and worthy of deep acquaintance.
there is a saying that is particularly true: "to find reliable people to do things, smart people can only chat."
in life, we often encounter such a situation:
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some people say nice things, but do things perfunctorily.
some people have a low sense of existence at ordinary times, but they can do everything carefully and take care of everything.
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told a story.
A colleague graduated from one of the top universities in China, and everyone is very optimistic about her ability.
another colleague, who graduated from an ordinary university, has mediocre qualifications and is not respected by the leadership.
but in the end, it was the one with mediocre qualifications who got the chance of promotion.
when highly educated colleagues first join the job, they need to do some very trivial work, such as answering the phone, doing declaration materials, and issuing notices.
but she used to study international politics and is used to scolding Fang in class and is very resistant to doing these things.
things are always procrastinating and careless.
as a result, once she made a big mistake.
at an important meeting, she bound the materials of the two leaders incorrectly, resulting in all the wrong materials for everyone on that day.
because of her mistake, the whole company was criticized by the superior unit.
on the contrary, another colleague is very reliable.
he is conscientious and meticulous in his work. Every time he collates the materials, he checks them many times, and he never misses a punctuation mark or a wrong word.
in meetings, he also does his job dutifully, does everything in every detail, and will do his best to avoid mistakes.
later, he was chosen by a leader who attended the meeting at that time and was recommended to work as an assistant in a higher unit.
now he has become the head of the business department.
and the colleague with the highest educational background, after making such a big mistake, lost all opportunities in the unit.
No one dares to assign important work to her.
it is really sad to compare the plight of two people.
I very much agree with the sentence: "the smartest way to be a man is to make people feel at ease about you."
whether a person can be reassuring or not, you don't need to have great professional skills, you just need to work hard to get things done.
those who can do every little thing well will have great things to look forward to.
the more you experience, the more you feel that reassuring is a person's top charm.
I remember watching a video in which Zhang Wei asked Wang Fei why he was invited to be a guest.
Faye Wong said without hesitation: "like you."
not only Faye Wong, but in recent years, more and more people like Da Zhangwei.
in all variety shows, once someone is needed to save the scene, he is the first choice.
at that time, Odie suddenly left "every Day up", and the show could not be recorded.
Big Zhang Wei received the program at 2: 00 in the morning.After the group's phone call, I flew to the recording scene in Changsha overnight without hesitation for a second.
in the Life of yearning, other people drag their suitcases to record.
Big Zhang Wei was invited temporarily and went there in a hurry with a computer bag, so that there was no change of clothes for the night rest.
the guest of "complaining about the meeting" stood up, and Big Zhang Wei went straight to the recording scene without saying a word.
too many times of reckless salvation, he has become a well-deserved variety "salvation king".
the staff of Hunan Satellite TV quipped: "it's not just us, but now all the major TV stations in the country are him."
Why does everyone turn to him for help when something goes wrong?
because as long as Da Zhang Wei is around, they will feel at ease.
program, he is professional and reliable, and he often brings unexpected surprises to the program group.
reassuring, it is a person's best social business card.
because once they make a promise, they will go all out to fulfill it.
for such people, the road will be wider and smoother in the future.
the writer Chi Li once said, "it's reliable, it's simple to say, but it's complicated."
the so-called reliability is actually the ability to reassure people.
and the highest reassuring state of a person can be summed up as follows:
being trustworthy and responsible has always been reliable.
May we be reassuring people and walk with those who make us feel at ease for the rest of our lives.