In the end, friendship is about character.
Zhisheng Zhuge Liang once said:
"A gentleman is far from a villain."
long-flowing feelings are always based on character.
for details, see character
there is no distinction between high and low, but there is a difference in texture in the heart.
there is a sentence in "University":
"what good is it if you see the liver and lungs of a man as he regards himself?"
A person's behavior reflects his character everywhere.
A man with a upright heart behaves brightly and does things properly.
if he has a bad mind, he is unkind and unrighteous, and he has to cover it up from east to west, but his character defect is just like a person's liver and lung disease will be reflected in his face, and others can see it clearly.
Last week, a reader said that he had broken up with a friend.
asked why, when the two were traveling together some time ago, the friend's mother suddenly called.
my mother's voice sounded very weak, but my friend said loudly, "it's just sick. I just have to stay in the hospital."
he advised his friend to go back first, but he refused: "Please."
he immediately shuddered. It turned out that the people who were with him were so indifferent and so negligent to his nurturing mother.
this is the way to treat relatives, let alone others.
A small detail often reveals the most real character.
what kind of energy is in it, what kind of person it shows.
it may be possible to pretend for a while, but it is impossible to pretend for a lifetime.
innocuous shortcomings can be tolerated, but moral defects cannot be tolerated.
if you see it clearly, the sage will think of Qi and the villain will be alienated.
when it is difficult to know people
No one asks if the poor live in a busy city, but the rich have distant relatives in the mountains.
in the good times, there is no shortage of flatterers around them, using all their sweet words to make a profit.
and a true friend, when you are in full swing, will not use sweet words, but will persuade you to behave well.
in the late Qing Dynasty, there was a businessman who started from scratch, his business became bigger and bigger, and he became the richest man in the area.
A friend failed in investment and needed a large amount of cash flow. He came to his door to buy his own industry.
instead of taking advantage of the opportunity to hold down the price, the businessman offered the normal market price.
his men are very confused. Why do they suffer losses instead of eating the fat meat that is delivered to them?
the businessman said:
"if you are willing to hold an umbrella for others, others will be willing to give you an umbrella.
who is not in trouble, now that he has made friends, he can help a little bit. "
after the ups and downs in the world, there is no need to linger on the feelings that cannot stand scrutiny, and there is no need to say much about the hearts of the people who have seen clearly.
because friends are not how many, but whether they are the same way or not.
the same path is heart-to-heart, heart-to-heart friendship is long.
the so-called congenial spirit is not forced agreement, but has the same integrity of character, can appreciate each other's advantages, but also can tolerate each other's imperfections, everything is negotiable.
it is easier to put the icing on the cake than to send charcoal in the snow.
who is true and who is false? in the end, it is clear at a glance.
maintain a relationship
but also pay attention to character
there is a classic saying: to know a person begins with appearance, falls into talent, fits character, and is loyal to character.
people always yearn for good things.
the so-called beautiful, does not mean the external beauty, but gives people a comfortable feeling.
A good man can always give sense of security.
in the early years of the Qing Dynasty, a talented man named Gu Zhenguan appeared in the capital, who was very unclassy in the official residences of the great nobles.
Grand Bachelor Nalan Mingzhu heard the name of his talent and sent him to the house to teach for his son Nalan Xingde.
at first, Nalan Xingde only admired Gu Zhenguan's talent, and the two were not deep in love and not close to each other in their poems.
when he heard that Gu Zhenguan was willing to put down his posture and try every means to rescue his friend Wu Zhaoqian, he was greatly moved and was deeply moved by his promise and righteousness, so he was cited as a best friend.
later, he tried his best to contribute a lot to Gu Zhenguan's rescue of Wu Zhaoqian, for which the other party was grateful for the rest of his life, and the two became best friends.
When in gold dresses for prom your look is magnificent and glamorous. Be enthralled by the combination of subtlety and comfort.
reap what you sow, reap what you sow.
only by attaching importance to affection and righteousness can we get consistent and consistent friends.
all my life, people around me come and go, how many people can talk to each other?
the joy at first sight is not as long as insatiable.
in the end, feelings are maintained by character.
such feelings, even though they quarrel at ordinary times, are of the same mind when things really happen;
No matter how hard life is, there are still people to talk and laugh with you.
Friends do not lie in many, but in wind and rain; words do not lie in coincidence, but in sincerity.
feelings to the end, the fight is the character; the real good karma, never lost to time.